I was sexually assaulted a little over a year. As a result, I contracted genital warts. I had them treated at Planned Parenthood and they disfigured my labia. I am going to have corrective surgery to fix it. It costs $5000 but I will be doing a payment plan through “Care Credit.”
There is one “RN” or woman that says she is an RN on answers that is so callous and cruel. She asked me “Which is worse: having had genital warts or a deformed labia” Why do people want to “rub it in”. Some people even say I am making it up. Do they know how many billions of questions I asked about my sexual assault? Obviously, I am deeply depressed to be asking all these questions. It really happened and I hate how the nurses at Planned Parenthood implied that I was lying.
I feel so depressed. How do I get better? Are their good peopel out there that want to see me better?
I HATE MY DISGUSTING VAGINA!!! I am scarred to have surgery though…Will it be safe? I am so nervourse. Please help me.
Aw Im sorry to hear that! And don’t listen to what those bitches have to say. Just do whatever it takes to make sure your vagina gets back to normal.
Being so sensitive, it must be terrible to hear ‘medical people’ treat patients so callously, but many people get burned out by the amount of trauma medicine forces you to deal with. Even sensitive people can become jaded after the 1,000th rape victim walks through the door. Even in non-victims, insensitivity can occur. She obviously sounds like she’s heard one case too many, if she is in fact a RN.
The more horrifying the crime, the less ‘believable’ it is, especially if there is a lack of evidence to back it up. Murder is slightly worse than rape, but its more readily believed cause you can’t fake someone whose really dead. Unless the rapist went hannibal lector on the victim, much of the trauma is internal, and thus difficult to see/understand/comprehend. The lack of imagination really hurts the victims, since so much ‘guilt’ is determined less by action than by ‘evidence’.
But rape is a real crime, with real consequences, and demands real attention and real, sustained quality care. Your vagina is not disgusting; you were made to feel disgusted by it by what happened. You WILL get better. The doctors are not there to hurt you, they are there to help you feel better and feel better about yourself.
Being scared is normal. But moving past your fear is how you will heal. You are doing that, and that means your body is doing exactly what it should be doing. You’re going to be nervous, you’re going to be scared and fearful, you’re going to be depressed, maybe for awhile. Your body will take as long as it needs to heal, and the same with your mind. But you WILL heal. And when you do, you won’t see your vagina, or yourself, as anything but what it is: a part of the wonderful whole that is you. You will remember the better part of yourself long after this worst part is over. That is what healing is all about.
Was the nurse on YA or at Planned Parenthood?
here is one “RN” or woman that says she is an RN on answers that is so callous and cruel.
I am deeply depressed to be asking all these questions. It really happened and I hate how the nurses at Planned Parenthood implied that I was lying.
Look, if this really did happen to you, I am SO incredibly sorry. You can ask for therapy thru Planned Parenthood. I suggest that you talk to someone trained to work you thru this horrible crime. BTW: I hope you are pressing charges if they have found him.