Monthly Archives: December 2009

My virgo mother is obsessed with plans and is a perfectionist about it. Everyone knows college and career isn’t easy and the pathway you go through is NEVER perfect. After high school, my mom was OBSESSED in planning every aspect of my education – being young, I listened. After high school, I went to a local community college. The plan: take nursing pre-req courses, be a nursing assistant/work, volunteer at a hospital, get my AA transfer degree and get into a bachelor’s nursing program. I managed 5/6 – everything but gettin into nursing. I applied everywhere, over and over. Even gave up the “bachelor’s” and went for RN & LPN programs the local community colleges and it wasn’t working.
At 22, I’m sick of applying to schools I know won’t get into. I decided to take a risk and transfered to a private university and accepted me. Their advisors are wonderful and they really take care of me and my career goals. I inform of my mom the decisions I make but is LIVID b/c she has no control and is not getting her way. Now she’s giving me guilt trip and contradicting her words. In june, i was already thinkin about applying this university but she refused and wanted me to apply to a local program SHE was sure i would get into. I didn’t make it and that’s when I made my decision of confirming. She NOW is blaming me for not researching financial aid options THEN. What’s crazy is that she already crossed the university off her list. At this point, I don’t care what she says. I know she means well but I need to do what’s best for me and my education. I know for a fact if I listen to her, I’ll get nowhere and apply to RN programs over and over w/o success WHILE my parents are giving me crap about “not finishing school”. I know this university is expensive but getting a loan for now is a sacrifice I’m willing to make when I have to pay it off after I graduate (hopefully). How do I deal?